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How to Cope with a Midlife Crisis

In the movie “Sideways,” we are introduced to Paul Giamatti’s character Miles Raymond. A middle-aged man struggling with life, Miles is a failed writer and failed actor who turns to wine to help him cope. Miles struggles with his relationships, career, and mental health throughout the film. 

For many people, a midlife crisis is when they reassess their lives and make changes. It can be a positive experience, as it can lead to people making changes that improve their lives. However, a midlife crisis can also be harmful, leading to people making impulsive decisions that they later regret.

If you are already in your 40s or 50s and feeling like you are in a rut, you might be experiencing a midlife crisis. It is normal to feel at a crossroads in your life and uncertain about which direction to take.

You can do a few things to cope with a midlife crisis and get back on track. First, it is crucial to understand that a midlife crisis is a normal aging phase. You also need to seek the help of a credible therapist.

Recognize the Feeling

Midlife can be a challenging time. You may feel at a crossroads, unsure of which direction to go next. You may find yourself feeling more emotional than usual. 

That is why taking the time to recognize your feelings is vital. It may not be easy, but it is essential to coping with a midlife crisis.

If you are anything like most people, you are probably not used to paying attention to your emotions. After all, who has time to stop and feel their feelings when so much else is going on? However, to be happy and healthy, you must start paying attention to how you feel.

According to seasoned therapists, when you identify your emotions, you can start understanding why you feel them. It can be a helpful first step in coping with your feelings.

Ageing & Increased Stressors

As we age, we are more susceptible to stress because we have more responsibilities and obligations than we did when we were younger. We also must deal with age-related issues, such as declining health and losing loved ones.

Numerous factors can contribute to this increase in stressors as we age. For one, we may have more responsibilities as we age, such as a family to care for or a career to maintain. Additionally, as we age, we may become more aware of our mortality, which can increase our stress levels.

While some stress is normal and beneficial, too much pressure can negatively affect our health and trigger a midlife crisis. Chronic stress has been linked to various health problems, such as heart disease, anxiety, and depression. Therefore, we must find ways to manage stress in our lives.


Midlife crises are a perfectly normal and natural occurrence. Though they can be tough to cope with, there are plenty of ways to get through them successfully. You can weather any midlife storm by staying mindful of your mental and physical health, communicating openly with your loved ones, and seeking help from an experienced therapist.

You do not have to go through a midlife crisis alone Virtuous Circle Counselling can help. As qualified therapists in Calgary, we will be with you through this journey. Schedule a consultation to see if we are a fit today.

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